These days few people celebrate their 60th birthday (Shashtiabdapoorthi*) publicly and one such person who did was my cousin, Babu. Babu aka Parthasarathy, is my father’s elder brother’s eldest son. I visited Chennai to participate in his Shashtiabdapoorthi celebrations. One of my objectives for this visit was to meet my father’s relatives in the function. So I planned for the trip in advance by booking rail tickets through the internet. I reached Chennai on the 12th morning, a day after heavy rains lashed the City due to a low pressure in the Bay. Every one knows that if it rained in Chennai, roads get flooded with rain water, but on that day the situation had improved. The other concern I had was how to reach the venue of the celebrations, the Kalyanamandapam without being fleeced by the auto drivers at the Central Railway station. So very carefully I crossed over to the other side of the road and hailed an auto to reach the place at a bargained fare of Rs.70/- fare. After freshening up, I waited in the Hall for other relatives to arrive. Each one of them arrived one after the other, some I could recognise easily but others unknown or forgotten were introduced by common relatives. I greeted them, spent some time talking to them about each other and other matters. Most in my peer group who were not so successful in their careers were thinking of retirement, the successful ones were talking about their career, children, etc. Another set of relatives, slightly older and retired, were talking about their current activities, especially their frequent jaunts to the promised land, the US of A. A majority of these people had their son(s) and daughter(s) working there, thanks to the abundant jobs in the tech sector. Our family not lucky to have such connections had to be contented to be rooted here (no complaints). The most important factor was the food expected to be served in these functions. Any shortcomings in this area would be a talking point in the later years. After entreating myself to a good lunch (which was really good), I spent the afternoon in my cousin’s home and returned to Bangalore by the night train.
*Excerpts on Shashtiabdapoorthi from http://www.globaladjustments.com/nlfeb04.html#top &
http://srinivasbadri.blogspot.com/2005/05/india-trip-shashtiabdapoorthi.html
Turning 60 is a social-religious event in India, especially in South India. When a man or woman turns 60 a sacred Vedic celebration called Shashtiabdapoorthi is performed - shashti meaning 60 years, abdam the year and poorthi signifying the completion of 60 years in a person’s lifetime. Rituals and mantras mark the event and a ‘remarriage’ of the couple is performed.
According to the Vedas, at 60 a man has reached the halfway mark of his actual span of life, which is 120 years. And according to Hindu numerology, six is not a favourable number and 60 is a point in life when the ruling planet of a person may have an adverse effect on his life. The person performs a religious shanti, mainly to invoke peace, ensure good health, and longevity. There is a similar ceremony, too, when a woman turns 60.